Another Friday means another day with our resident catwomanizer, Andrea Gunawan in another installment of SweetLove with Andrea! Today's topic gives so much perspective and encouragement to everyone getting married to focus more on the preparing for the marriage journey instead of the wedding day.
The floor is yours, Andrea!
Anyone can be “The One” until proven otherwise. And just like fingerprints, no two marriages are alike, so rather than looking to books and magazines, it’s better to simply ask those who have lived and breathed it. “Till death do us part,” they said, but most of the time, reality isn’t that simple and love isn’t always there. By avoiding some common misconceptions and talking about the important things before even deciding to tie the knot, you can navigate your relationship more carefully and have a bigger chance in living happily ever after.
The most important thing besides getting to know your partner, is to understand yourself—who you are, what you want in life, and what you expect from your partner. Because sometimes you go into a relationship, hoping that your partner will change and be disappointed after finding out they don’t. The romantic phase of a new love, combined with hormones, can make you overlook the things that can break your relationship.
People often put so much effort into their wedding, but sadly not their marriage. To better prepare you for your lifelong journey, I asked my followers to share their stories and here are the five things they wish they knew before they got married.
Couples often have different ideas of whether to live with the in-laws, whether each partner wants to have kids, how many kids they want, what will happen if the kid has special needs, whether the wife is allowed to continue working and pursuing her dreams after she has kids, what will happen if the husband asks the wife to move to another city, etc. You don't want to wait until marriage to realize that your vision of what married life looks like differs greatly from your partner's. Sure, it might feel scary to not be on the same page about such a fundamental thing with your life partner, but it’s possible to adjust your expectations and compromise so it’s a win-win situation for the both of you.
Rarely do couples give love and receive love in a similar way. It can create an atmosphere of frustration when you think you’re the best lover in the whole world and yet, the other person still thinks it’s not enough. According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five Love Languages—Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. It’s important to understand your partner’s main Love Languages so you can learn to “speak” in their Language to make them feel most loved.
Besides sex and kids, money is often one of the biggest causes for arguments among couples, that’s why it's good to be open about finances before you actually get married. You don’t want to wait until you say “I do” before finding out about their huge credit cards debt, for example. Talking about it might feel awkward at first, but you and your partner may value money differently, spend it differently, and save it differently.
If you have the privilege to live with your partner before deciding to tie the knot, this might not be such a big deal. You and your partner might not be on the same page about how clean and organized things should be—simple things, such as not washing the dishes right away, or putting your dirty clothes on the laundry basket after you throw them away, might seem insignificant, yet could potentially spark a fight between you two. One way to figure out your partner’s habits is to travel with them.
Getting married is one thing. To stay married is another. It takes hard work and a lot of sacrifice, compromise, and compassion towards one another. These “must have” conversations are the conversations that you both may not want to talk about. These are the conversations that may make you both angry, defensive, sad, and hurt. That’s why it’s necessary to talk about the difficult issues and situations—which often revolves around sex, money, kids, personal beliefs, career plans, unresolved childhood issues, and past trauma.
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Our very own Creative Director, Jalu, wasn't really a big fan of being photographed. However, after 8 months of working in SweetEscape and (naturally) getting exposed to SweetEscape's beautiful photos in a lot of beautiful locations around the world, Jalu started to feel that maybe being photographed isn't such a bad idea after all.
So, for his family holiday in Tokyo this year-end, Jalu booked his first-ever session. What impressed him the most is how easy the booking process turned out to be–just through the app. His interesed was piqued even higher when he met the photographer who was very friendly and easy to converse with.
"I also noticed how professional their cameras and gears were! So it made me even more convinced that my photos would turn out to be great!" said Jalu.
When Jalu received the photos, he was surprised at how beautiful the photos turned out to be. His wife loved the session and the photos, his young daughter–which he feared wouldn't enjoy the shoot–also absolutely loved it, even he himself looked good in the photos!
"The photographers really know how to find the perfect angle for you, I never thought my photos would turn out these great!" said Jalu. "I absolutely love it, and I'd definitely book more sessions when I travel to other interesting locations in the future."
Sheena Buraga and her husband Daniel are truly one of the most unique clients SweetEscape had recently. Their 'Seasons of Love' pre-nup concept is really inspiring, and SweetEscape is proud and honoured to be a part of their love journey from the very start when Daniel first proposed to Sheena in Tokyo (spring), to their pre-nup shots in Nami Island (autumn) and Niseko (winter), and finally to their final pre-nup shot in Siargao (summer).
"Between May and June 2018 after the proposal, we started planning for our wedding. At first we thought that the photos in Tokyo would be our proposal / engagement photos, and we wanted to capture another pre-nup photoshoot, not with SweetEscape. But when seeing our proposal photos shot by SweetEscape, everybody said that our pre-nup shoots will look less beautiful compared to the super-beautiful photos of our proposal taken by SweetEscape! Considering this, and since we were travelling to Nami Island, South Korea in the autumn, we decided to create this 'Four Seasons of Love' pre-nup concept with SweetEscape!" said Sheena when asked about what made them keep taking their pre-nup shots with us.
TV reporter Najla Hilabi always puts an extra care for her Instagram feed; she wants it to look extra neat and beautiful, and this was her initial reason to use SweetEscape. After knowing about us from an Instagram ad, she decided to book her first session for her trip to Prague.
"I don't know if I'd ever go back to Prague again, so I thought it was important to capture my moments there with a proper photography service," said Najla.
What impressed her was eventhough there were some language barrier with the photographer, the photos still turned out beautiful, and the photographer brought her to the hidden gems of the already enchanting city. This, in addition to the beautiful photos she received afterwards, made her book another session for her recent trip to Tokyo.
"I feel that SweetEscape always maintains their standard of quality. You don't just get your raw photos, you get perfectly curated and professionally edited photos, and this careful production process really makes me love SweetEscape!"
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